Optimism: The Power of Positive Self-Talk

Optimism is often a hard one to teach. Young children like to generalize optimism to mean, “I will be happy all the time otherwise it’s bad.” Well . . . that thought process is only erasing every single emotional awareness lesson I ever taught.

This year I was trying to think of a way to make optimism an internal feeling and not an outward display of happiness. How do we feel hopeful about things even in our darkest days? Positive self-talk! And then the Shield of Optimism was born . . . 

Optimism The Power of Positive Self Talk

Positive self-talk is the amazing ability to tell ourselves just how special and important and good and wonderful we are so that we have the resilience to approach difficult situations with confidence. I took this approach when teaching my K-4 students about optimism. We should talk to ourselves like we would a great friend . . . and if that’s not happening, then let’s look at how we fix it. 

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Parent Tip Tuesday: Social-Emotional Development

Helping parents develop confident

Does anyone else lose track of the days during the summer? I certainly do, which might explain why I keep missing out on Tuesdays!

Either way, a couple weeks ago I received my new preschool curriculum . . . Kimochis. The Kimochis program is based on research done on the effectiveness of social-emotional learning during early childhood. Their research is so compelling, I thought I would share some important points. Continue reading →

Your Outlook on Life

We’ve all heard the saying, “Seeing the world through rose colored glasses.” Little do we know, children are looking at their world through all sorts of different colored lenses.

During a lesson with my 2nd graders, we discussed how certain feelings will make us see things differently. They will make us look at the world, the problem, the situation, and our friends differently. The lesson helped us recognize these lenses and how we can fix our lenses to see things clearly.

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New name! But Why?!

Before starting this blog in 2012, I was a first year school counselor, a grad student, member of a professional dance team, and a side artist. I had little time and quickly became frustrated with the lack of resources I was finding out there for busy school counselors like myself. I started the blog in hopes of helping others around me with similar issues. Continue reading →

What Does it Take to Be A Good Friend?

When we are little, we are taught throughout all our young lives how to be a good friend. We are praised for including others, disciplined for leaving others out. Thumbs up for sharing, thumbs down for calling a friend a name.

As a kid, everyone you meet is your friend. You instantly engage in play, you laugh, you run, and you literally lose all your cares. Not a single child is on the playground thinking about what someone might think of him, how long that friendship will last, will they turn their back on you, or will they truly be there through thick and thin. Carefree friendships are a childhood treasure. Continue reading →

The Power of Red

Part 3 . . .

I promised you a changed life by Wednesday . . . well my busy work life took over and now you might consider me some what of a liar . . . oh well, I have my shield up . . . don’t know what that means? Lucky for you I’ll tell you all about my shield. Continue reading →

The Power of Suggestion

Part Two  . . .

Self-Care for People Who Care

Each of these posts (yesterday, today, and tomorrow) work together. You need the relaxation techniques from yesterday to complete today’s techniques, and you’ll need today’s techniques in the front of your mind for tomorrow’s grand finale!

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The Power of Relaxation

Once again this year I attended the TCA Conference with my dear colleague who also works as a counselor in a private Catholic school. I was initially looking forward to going just to spend some quality “consulting” time with her in a city 4 long hours away . . . Dallas.

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Why I Turned Down The Opportunity of a Lifetime . . .

I recently read an article in Psychology Today that talked about reinventing yourself. It hit home  . . .

True to form, I am just as reactive to situations as any good six year old boy. I see it every day, I’m asked about it everyday . . . how do we get student A to start thinking and stop being so impulsive? In these situations, I have all sorts of tricks and ideas as to why these students are impulsive, how to get them to stop acting and start thinking, but when it comes to myself  . . . . when the going gets tough, I have a horrible track record of jumping ship.


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