Lesson Help is Here!

There is a point in every school counselor’s life when everything begins to pile up. It’s at this very moment that we realize our creative lesson planning has taken a back seat. 

I was trying to think what I needed most during these times. READY TO USE LESSONS! I needed a place where I could go that would have everything I needed in one place. And not just a creative, cutesy lesson, but one that built on our ASCA mindsets and behaviors  AND also hit all my students’ social-emotional goals. 

Well that’s exactly what I’ve decided to offer you! You see I may not be in the school every day any more, but every day I do hear how much my lessons made a difference and how much my kiddos miss me. So, if I can’t use them, someone should!  Continue reading →

Updated: The Bully is Back in Town

I have had SO much interest in my The Bully is Back in Town post from nearly 4 years ago! It was one of my firsts. 

There were pieces of it I loved and pieces that I hated myself a little bit for also. When I began counseling, our head of school at the time was big on creating or having or using some sort of “bullying program.” I know I make it very clear often that I don’t really LOVE (in fact really dislike) using the word bullying. But sometimes, you gotta do what you gotta do to make certain people happy. 

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Parent (and Educator) Tip Tuesday: Love and Logic

I have graciously taken on the relaxation and lack of responsibility summer brought me . . . but after supervision last night I realized I should probably get back to providing some summer reading for those of us needing professional development hours.

Helping parents develop confident

My post today is advocating for one of my favorite all time “programs” I was trained in as a 2nd year teacher in Colorado. So this post today isn’t just for parents, but for teachers and educators, as well. I loved Jim Fay’s philosophy so much I became a Love and Logic trainer/presenter approximately 4 years ago. Continue reading →

How to Subscribe to The Counselor Stop by E-mail

Happy Monday everyone! A while back I talked about how there was a new look and name coming for counseloretc. Well, that time has arrived!

I have officially transitioned from this site, to my own site, The Counselor Stop. This site should directly forward on to The Counselor Stop, but I know there have been some hiccups along the way. I would hate for you to miss out on the new-age of counseloretc., my posts, articles, tips, tricks, advice, etc.

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Emotional Needs of Boys

Three weeks ago today, I was asked to speak at my school’s Benefactor Dinner. They asked that I speak about how my program addresses the emotional needs of boys. I was about one second away from declining due to my fear of speaking in front of more than 1 person . . . an introvert’s nightmare. Give me 100 children, I’ll sing and dance for you, but a room full of adults, the most influential adults in our school community? Ya I’d turn that down, sweat through 15 shirts, and nearly have a panic attack . . . instead I said yes . . . sweat through 2 shirts, nearly had a panic attack, and settled for a glass of wine to cool my nerves instead. Continue reading →

What Does it Take to Be A Good Friend?

When we are little, we are taught throughout all our young lives how to be a good friend. We are praised for including others, disciplined for leaving others out. Thumbs up for sharing, thumbs down for calling a friend a name.

As a kid, everyone you meet is your friend. You instantly engage in play, you laugh, you run, and you literally lose all your cares. Not a single child is on the playground thinking about what someone might think of him, how long that friendship will last, will they turn their back on you, or will they truly be there through thick and thin. Carefree friendships are a childhood treasure. Continue reading →

Go Out and Be Gritty!

Screen Shot 2015-01-21 at 11.00.41 AMAfter attended the positive psychology session at the TCA conference this year, I came back and changed the last 6 character traits of the year. I had stuck to the normal 9 respect, fairness, responsibility, cooperation, caring, courage, trustworthiness, dignity, excellence, and citizenship for the last 2 years. Now I changed the traits, not because these 9 traits are bad . . . because honestly they are not at all, in fact if one human could have all 9 of these traits they’d be a hero, but I changed the traits because I teach all boys. Continue reading →

The Importance of Play in Elementary Schools

I was recently published in the International Journal of Play Therapy for my research done during my graduate work at the University of Saint Thomas. I focused my research on the effectiveness of using play activities during small group lessons to help improve appropriate classroom behaviors. I wish I could freely share my research here, but I think the IJPT wouldn’t appreciate that much. Please take some time to look for it though. The article title is Examining the Use of Play Activities to Increase Appropriate Classroom Behaviors. Below I have given you excerpts from the unedited version of my manuscript, including all the research I did on people who previously utilized play in schools. Continue reading →

The Power of Red

Part 3 . . .

I promised you a changed life by Wednesday . . . well my busy work life took over and now you might consider me some what of a liar . . . oh well, I have my shield up . . . don’t know what that means? Lucky for you I’ll tell you all about my shield. Continue reading →